The One Uppers
Molly Nichols
We all know those people right? The ones that kinda make us feel inadequate, not even those we’re jealous of, just those types of people who seem to make everything you do look small in comparison to their accomplishments. I believe earlier in my life we referred to them as the “One Uppers.”
I’m not here to gossip or complain... well maybe I’ll complain a little, but I promise to keep it civilized. I’m not one for low blows.
There are people in our lives that can make your accomplishments seem small, even if it’s the same thing you accomplished. Entrance into a club or group, maybe getting a great grade in a class that was positively tough for everyone. I have people like this in my life, in fact, sometimes I’ve been referred to as one. I’m not saying it’s jealousy, maybe it’s drive, competitiveness. Maybe we as humans are so driven to be the best that sometimes it can create unnecessary competition over silly little things. I feel slightly embarrassed to admit I have been feeling a little one upped recently.
All I’ve ever wanted was to be successful, but not at the expense of self love and self respect. Sometimes we are so incredibly inconsiderate of our own feelings and that is something I intend to change. If we are constantly beating ourselves up about the results...we are losing the game. There is something so superficial about success, all we want is more. All anyone ever wants is more. Wanting more isn’t a bad thing, unless it becomes DIABOLICAL.
I will never be able to explain why people are constantly working for more...yet again isn’t that what we’re encouraged to do. Doesn’t society always make us feel that if we aren’t doing more we’re falling behind? And that leads to everyone’s worst fear...the fear of being forgotten, of being ordinary.
If any of you are feeling this in the way that I am. I’m sorry. It sucks to feel inadequate. I could tell you a billion times that you aren’t, but I know that won’t change anything. You need to start being nicer to yourself. I need to start being nicer to myself. And then we’d be left with a nicer world. That logic makes sense right? A kinder world...people wouldn’t know what to think.
I know that life is tough and life is scary, especially when we as people are so desperate to feel like a success. Don’t let the people who are using you as measuring point demolish your view of success. It looks so different for so many people, and this whole life thing...you’re doing it.
It’s messy and gross and newsflash you’re never gonna be able to be the most successful person in the world, because no one even knows what that looks like. You know what you can be though... the best in your own eyes...please be nicer and love yourself in the way that the world loves you. Wholeheartedly.
With Love, Molly
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